ABUJA ENTERTAINMENT; How to overcome the Lagos hodoo

In the heart of the federal capital territory, the value for imported songs and the admiration for lagosacentric sounds and melody can not be over emphasized. Everything music must be made in Lagos if not its not appreciated. Can we just take our time to listen to what is really coming out of Lagos and compare with the lofty amount of talents in deposit in Abuja? The real issue is even Abuja is not in Appreciation of itself. Many mushroom records labels in Abuja would beat their chest and gnash their teeth with envy of their counterparts in Lagos, but the level of sacrifice been made by the brains and the executives of this record labels can not be found anywhere around the capital territory.
Abuja is laden with talents of all kinds but suffers negligence and the stereotype remains that Lagos is more of the entertainment capital of the country, so Abuja can only try.
An Abuja grown artist wouldn't try to be unique in the music sence, the dominance of the likes of whizkid and Davido would influence every string he plays all the way in his music. It isn't wrong to have an established individual as a role model but you mustn't be a photocopy of that individual.
Abuja can only gain the respect it deserves in the industry only if the originality that was planted by Abuja pioneer artist from the likes of modenine, Terry da rapman, six foot plus and guys like rocklin can only be built on, Abuja can only keep playing the second fiddle to those guys from the southwest. Be original and you'll carve your own nitch and make the industry to sing in your own style.

Kemi Oluloyo: i want to smash Flavour Nabania

Kemi Olunloyo is back again.. This time she isn’t posting anything controversial, neither did
she attack someone, a celebrity or a politician.
All she did was declare a “shirtless man” (Flavour), Wanted.. Kemi says she wants flavour to get to her crib NOW.. So they could SMASH.
She took to instagram to post a shirtless picture of the singer,
and captioned it:

#HNNSex WHO IS THIS GUY????????
I want him in my crib tonight!
I need to SMASH him!
This guy can wake up my strategic areas!
If every #Nigerian man looked like this, then Jesus has definitely returned!
Holla to me hot one!
HNNAfricanews@live.com
#MadamHNN
#MadamKOO
#KemiOlunloyo

I know the title of this essay is a paradox. I know… it’s borne out of a discovery I made only last week. I wasn’t going to comment on Toke Makinwa and her marital woes; at least not in the way many news sites and blogs have jumped on the story, but I made a discovery which struck me profoundly, and it would be selfish of me not to share, especially with the female folk. Before now I didn’t know, nor would I have ever have imagined that a woman could be legally married to a man, yet wear the toga of the mistress or what we colloquially call the side chick. I was totally unaware of this until I read the much talked about memoir by the Media Personality, On Becoming. Yes, you can be the wife and the side chick all at once.
I am no relationship expert, but aside confirming some of the things I already knew, Toke’s memoir opened my eyes to certain realities too; chief of which is the one I just mentioned above. Without giving too much away, it was obvious right from the first chapter that addressed her relationship with her estranged husband that it was a marriage that should never have been contracted in the first place. It brought the desperation of many young women in these parts for the ring to the fore once again. Or how else does one explain being stood up “at the altar” on two or three different occasions? What grown man who knows what he wants subjects the woman he supposedly loves to that kind of treatment? And what sane woman doesn’t read the bold handwriting on the wall after one or two of such humiliating experiences?
The purpose of this piece is not to judge the author of the book, or the man at the centre of it all. However, it would be practically impossible not to come away with any emotion after reading its contents. You are either amused by the sheer anomaly of it all or angry or sorry for the young woman who wasted 12 years of her life trying to earn the love of a man. Or you feel a combination of these emotions; which aptly describes what I felt.
It’s the reason I don’t subscribe to long term courtships personally, and when I say long term I am referring to being in an exclusive relationship with one person for over 5 years. Now, I know that for young love birds who probably started dating in their first year in the University, it would take 5 years or more for them to get to the point where they are mature and financially stable enough to get married, but how many of these relationships really end in marriage? And oftentimes if and when they do, it’s usually because the girl fell pregnant along the line and the guy sees it as his duty to marry her. Not necessarily out of love. We have seen this happen too many times.
Let’s face it, it doesn’t take a serious man even 5 years to know if he can marry a lady or not. I understand that there may be other constraints, but dating one man off and on for 12 years before he marries you already smacks of something off. In this case, the man is almost 12 years older, he was no baby, and he wasn’t poor. As a matter fact he is from a comfortable background. So pray tell why he would pussyfoot for so long before putting a ring on it if he really wanted her for a wife. How does it take 12 years to make up one’s mind about something, anything at all?
Toke was the side chick all along. She may have gotten that little cuff around her finger at the end of the day, but there is absolutely no doubt that she was the mistress. And before you try to argue with my submission, please read the book. Even she admitted as much. But she didn’t have to. Any objective and discerning mind who has no vested interest in the situation or is blindly loyal to any of the parties would deduce the same thing based on all that transpired between the three main characters in the book. It was as clear as day from night that Maje always preferred Anita to Toke. It’s not however clear who he started dating first, but from Ms Makinwa’s revelations, her rival certainly got a better deal from Mr Ayida.
Beyond the fact that he had allegedly cheated on Toke so many times, and with many different ladies. Anita it was whom he spent a whole week with in Calabar when she had a bike accident while he told Toke he was in Abuja. Anita it was whom he attended her convocation ceremony at the University of Benin. He never extended the same gesture to Toke, who was supposed to be the main chick. Anita it was whom he preferred to hangout with immediately he returned from a three months trip, while Toke waited to see him much later. Anita it was for whom he flew to Abuja to be present at her Call to Bar ceremony when Toke was also in the capital city oblivious of her “man’s” whereabouts. And Anita it was whom he chose to have a baby with even though he was married to Toke. Who then was the side chick?
Toke has received a lot of flak for revealing so much about her personal life. There’s also the notion that she wrote the book to make a quick buck as some form of compensation for all she went through. While her real motives for opting to write a “tell-all” book may never be clear, I believe that penning her experiences for others to learn from is a brave move. It’s not easy to chronicle the unpleasant events of one’s life for strangers (who will no doubt play judge) to read. And maybe, just maybe the OAP’s story will slap some of us ladies back to the reality that getting married doesn’t necessarily translate to being the proverbial Apple of your husband’s eye.
Sometimes, a marriage is only a change in status. A ring remains an object; albeit a symbolic one. At the end of the day what really matters is how the person we have chosen to be with treats us. How they respect us. How they make us feel. Toke thought she had “won” when she got the ring, and the married woman status. Unfortunately, it was all a mirage.
You can be the one with the ring, and be the side chick too. You may get the ring, but not the heart. If you didn’t know that before, now you know. Marriage isn’t always the answer. Let no one fool you.

Nigeria's Social stereotype elaborated.

When I see a social media abbreviation such as "LOL" I truly laff out loud, but when it becomes "LOLZ" what do you mean? don't tell me you "laff out loudz" because in the end, it doesn't make any sense. The trendiness that accompanies the fake lifestyle of our society today is so enticing that so many among the teaming youths goes as far as engaging in dubious activities to make real the promise they live on social media. So disheartening i tell you, we no longer see any body looking like somebody from a humble background anymore. On facebook, twitter and instagram, we are all living big, pushing whips and all having a paying hussle. Its funny how the world can cash in on the ability to hide behind our phone's buttons and computer's keyboards and display how much of assholes humanity has become. Yes we are all assholes now, we no longer see ourselves as who we are anymore. we are really who we are to ourselves and paint another picture of who we are that we are not to the world on social media, I call it social fraud, social malice, social mishap. I use this adjectives because the effect of this stereotype activities on our social media today is having a really devastating multiplier effects on those that chose to thread the paths of reality, thus giving them insomnia about not making the level of progress this liars have made only on the internet. In the past when they was sanity in the publicity circle, the nobles were seen as the high and mighty in every society, lines were drawn between the well to do and the wannabe's. But today we are all well to do, no more wannabe's. The circle of stereotype is gaining in the expansion of its horizon and all that stoops to get drowned in the scopes and techniques of the fake internet high class in our societies today can be its guests, no access fee is charged. All you need is your phone or a laptop, take a few selfie with some rich people's cars at some exotic venues and claim you are in london to see the queen, your game has just kick started. @yakey85

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World pleas

In truth, love is under-exercised, undervalued and underperformed. The wheel of humanity is set in motion with issues, predicaments and consequences. In as much as we don't like to be at the receiving end, issues are made with our existence. Imagine life without problems to solve, without the need to look for food, it would have been one boring hell of existence. Humanity has always learned to adapt to whatever nature confronts it with, but as reasoning creatures, the onus is on us to strike a balance. Attack our issues with the weapon called love. It is like the antidote created by nature to ease our pains, incase we are overpowered by this same issue which is a recipe that keeps us engaged as humans. Yes love it is. With love in your heart, to help others that are pressed with issues becomes normal. to break the yolk of the devilish extremism and sociopathism that rocks the world beyond the basic issues of human existence can easily be achieved. with love in your heart, you see solutions where others see's problems. You'll become foster parents and role models to the lost children. You'll be concerned by the rage of the depressed, support the aggrieved and save the oppressed. you'll share in the shame of the failure and victory of humanity. You'll become a gospel that instigates ballads and rhymes for the voices of the future generation. You'll become a voice for the side-lined and the marginalised. You'll be seen as the positive reality to the negatively twisted. You'll be the everything to the nothings. Pleas world, Love it is.

Seeking a record deal in Nigeria

And so the day came and you forgot how It was always a drama, a rola-costa ride,a ride through uncertainty, a ride with little even in the midst of lofty possibilities, a ride with the wolves, even goats turns cannibals in the quest to make it to the top in the Nigeria's music industry. With little or no support most of us are left to wonder if that day would ever come, the day the world would look at us as the stars that we truly are, that day the world would see a young face with productivity and progress written all over his steps and gestures. What a sharp twist of fate that would be! Because just yesterday, my phone would not even ring, no body wanna talk to a dreamer, no body wanna link with this destiny that is having the big "LOOSER" written all over it. When you doubt a body that still breaths,it is like assuming that nightfall would never come. It is inevitable because, a body that lives is mobile, a living soul is dynamic, and the music he is having stored in him is a saleable stock, some call it the undervalued diamond. The D'banj, Psquare, davido and most especially the Tuface Idibia of today, were once an element of scorn and rejection before they emerge on the big stage. Don't stop pushing, your next stop might be the missing piece of the puzzle. DONT GIVE UP

PROJECT FAME; rubbing peter to pay paul.

The sound of it is so appealing, who wouldn't like to be famous? To perform in front of a cheering crowd bearing in mind that some other millions of people are away from the studio cheering you on too, as you do what you love doing best. Music is a game of fame, and any up and coming musical artist needs this important recipe to lay claim to success. So is the story of millions of unemployed youths in Nigeria, They develop different kinds of natural inbuilt talents they can find (even a drop of it) in themselves. They struggle through thicks and thins to make this talent saleable, to also create an outreach to their targeted fans and get paid in return, that is the way to be famous and successful. So many would say; what was I thinking writing this piece? But I don't regret it one bit. This episode of the ongoing project fame auditioning registration process is one of the most fraudulent induction process I have ever seen in the history of television talent hunt series, In my opinion, the process is a huge scam. First off, the hopeful young artist would sing to an automated voice prompt that randomly choose which line to send a code to, and a hundred naira is charged per one of this process. This process, if unsuccessful, is expected to be repeated again and again until a code is sent. A hundred naira is charged per session of this process and you might end up spending a minimum of 1000 naira, trying to get to audition for the programme in which you are not even sure of making it through. Lies of creating a better life for young Nigerians through this fraudulent process seem to me like taking advantage of the high level of unemployment the country suffers at the moment. Out of millions that gets to try their luck, only 15 people would make it to the house and also stand a chance of gaining from the whole process. This process, to me I can't call a service to the society, I call fraud and gimmicks to enrich the organisations and a few well branded established musicians that partakes in the process. Call it paranoia, I don talk my own. They are rubbing peter to pay paul and also enrich themselves.

To make her cum quick

Its been a long way out in that relationship of yours, but you've not succeeded in giving your guy that pride filled pleasure of cumming, while he's in the thick of it. When a lady attains orgasm during sex, the pleasure is the guy's. It gives him the pride of been the man, he'll be filled with the feeling that he's really got it done this time. But how can he get it done? It doesn't matter if he stays on all day, It doesn't matter if he crushes your ember with impacts propelled by the hardest pain killers and viagra. It all depends on the lady to play her own part. Orgasm is not easy feat to achieve, according to sexperts, its only 30 percent of women that can orgasm from stimulation-free intercourse. So achieving orgasm is only possible with the input or contribution of both psychological and physical effort of the female. The psychological mind frame or position of the lady is a huge playing factor, the two salient questions are; how do you feel about this particular moment, has it been a moment you've been longing or anticipating? Another question is; how do u feel about sex, is it just to satisfy your man or you are ready to partake in the pleasure sharing? anticipation is a huge contributor in the quest to achieving the big G, yes! Anticipation it is. When you fail to plan, you plan to fail. While you are at it, create that serene environment in your mind frame, create scenarios, paint psychological pictures. watch.........yes, watch pornography while he is still absent and a bit of stimulation (but don't hit the climax) is a very good idea while you wait for that moment. Some ladies have had bad sex all their lives that they don't know what it means to have that maximum, that "star seeing" feeling during intercourse. All they do is lay there, like "is he done yet" and it doesn't matter if you are there or not. Believe it or not, sex is selfish, I said this because, it involves two individuals with separate brains and mind sets. A guy would pop and grind for his own pleasure, and your own part determines if you are pleasured too. So when a female takes charge (sit on you) its not odd or away from norm. Its got to show that, she knows what she wants, and the means to achieving it. By this, I mean she want to be in control of the pace in movement, the angling in the direction, in search of what really works. She don't know how far the guy can last, so swinging it toward her favour, in order not to feel cheated when he cums is not wrong.

Sarcasms and its gains in relationships

Its imperative to note that, sarcastic people are socially highly intelligent kinds, with the ability to turn depressive scenarios and situations into humour. All one needs to do is understand the underlying meanings, not just the direct translation. Sarcastic people are healthy to have around, better still, have as your better half. The most salient amongst the numerous advantages is that, the humours that follows the perfect understanding of sarcasm is healthy for relationships to hang on for longer, ladies get more attracted to guys that are naturally humorous, believe it or not, any comic statement is built on sarcasm as a foundation. The sense of attachment grows more clingy if yours is the kind of person that understands sarcasm as your spouses bad habit and you have to learn to enjoy by flowing with the humorous tides. Sarcasm is leverage, sarcasm is detective and sarcasm is relieving. Sarcastic people are highly intelligent, so beware, when trying to play that fast one on that your sarcastic spouse, because he is a lies detector machine made flesh. Your con or your verbal manoeuvring can easily be detected, prompting that element of distrust, in return, strain your relationship. Sarcastic people are always secured, running out of option as a result of been out-smarted is not their fear. The brain of a sarcastic person is twice or more times sharper and calculative than your average normal brains, your sarcastic spouse is your security against been caught flat-footed in any context, they can smell bulshit from a distance. Solutions are created with problems, that's how fast they calculate, it is proven in the ways they answers a telling question with humorous and fitting answers. when caught in a corner, they answer questions with question, Sarcasm replies bulshit with bulshit. Sarcasm should be appreciated, because with it, there's never a dull moment. Ladies would complain on how their boy friends would bore them to sleep. believe me, it is a deal breaker to most of this ladies, been sarcastic creates humour and that is an added advantage to keep that your boo coming back.

The #9billion naira fear (Nigeria)

This hashtag started trending on twitter and other social networks around Nigeria. so many wonders what the buzz is all about, but considering the number of times the Nigerian populace has been taken to the cleaners by their leaders, in terms of outrageous allowances been allocated unnecessarily to public figures, one would understand if alarms were raised at the sound of #9billion naira been allocated to the federal law-makers as wardrobe allowances.
 The sound of it unearths emotions or the feeling of dejavous that were meant to be bueried at the bottom of our subconscious history. The feeling of "what should be forgotten with jonathan" is now becoming visible with Buhari. The feeling of "our stress to oust jonathan is completely counting for nothing" this crop of people has started showing signs of corruption once again. The feeling of "our dreams of owning our country and not to be owned by some politicians" is gradually depleting under our watchful eyes. The feeling of "lost of confidence in the possibilities of the suffering or hardship caused by Jonathan's cluelessness" wearing away at the shortest possible period.
What if we are right? What if the trend called corruption is fixed within our DNA and we can't help but be corrupt at the slightest opportunity?  What if this set of government officials are worst than those under Jonathan? What if so many contracts that are to be signed should be more crooked than those under jonathan? What if the $20 billion that was missing under jonathan is nothing compared to what we are about to witness under Buhari's Government? What if we are not even meant to be a developed country and corruption is installed as the actualiser of that aspect of our national destiny? What if, what if, what if and ..................what if's? On and on we can go wondering.
Fellow compatriots, we are a country of people living withing the circle of fear and distrust, we lived with the fear of even seeing good things happen.
What can be worst than having our children going to bed every night on empty stomachs without hope for even a meal tomorrow? What can be worst than walking along our streets with the fear of been kidnapped or be rubbed of our belongings? What can be worst than having the chunk of our national budget allocated to the power sector (with total blackout) that practically turned out to be one huge fraud? What can be worst than living with death at the back of our minds, not knowing where and when the next bomb is going to go off, with a clueless government also lost on what to do about it? What can be worst than not giving a chance for change to germinate and bear the fruits of assurances and absolute security for the future of our children? Under the past Government, the amount earned in salaries and allowances by David mack and cohorts were a misery to you and I and we lived with it. The sense of been involved in the affairs of the governing of the country is what men like me would propagate at any giving time.
Transparency should not be met by disgruntled gestures and utterances. It should be met by contentment and appreciation, we should give this change a chance, because the people's General can not be taken for a ride, so within the mean time, we must assume, he is in total control and to the fairest level, he'll lead our country out of this mess.

See it done Mr Buhari!!!

Time for campaign promises is over, baba is in a thick of it now. The chains you promised that shall be broken, are still fresh as ever in our memory. the circle of deceit you promise to break. the ring of poverty, you promise to destroy. the school of thought called the game of politics, you promise to ground with your gaze fixed tight on our National destiny. The common cause of our national bad-luck called the "oil marketers cabal" you promised to help send to extinction by making our crude oil refineries very functional. The seal of blackout that is tied by those agents of darkness, all the way from NEPA to PHCN, you've promised to loose. All the anomalies such as kidnapping, rebellion and insurgence, that has conspired to give us sleepless nights, you promise to bring to an end. The vast sprawl of hunger and food insecurity, you've promised to see it rectified. You also promise to secure our future by making education convenient and affordable to the ordinary. We have not also forgotten that you said we should wave goodbye to rulership and bid welcome leadership. We could also recall that unemployment and poverty eradication where at the forefront of your verbal manifestos. You also promised that, The ever present side to our story called corruption, shall become extinct and our history re-written with a new ink called transparency and all inclusive economic programme, not just economic boosts on papers. You also promise us that, all kinds of killings, as a result of the desperation by politicians in the last elections, shall not go unpunished. See it done Mr Buhari and in 2019, it wouldn't matter how old you are, you shall be president once again.

Nigeria should not die for this!

Insurgence, the wrong way to communicate grievance. Corruption, the wrong rout to success and definitely not the answer to our common plight (poverty) talking on individual basis. Referring back to history, from our independence till now, Nigeria has been handed over from one corrupt individual to another. Apart from the fact that we have a government that is barely two weeks old, and also this same person's government in 1983, no president can beat his chest in a godzila fashion and say "probe me, I'm not corrupt" the fear of probe is the reason why Nigeria has been ruled by governments with stolen mandates since the past three electoral tenures. Nigeria should not be left to drown on her own history, she must make her own mistakes, make amends and recover from it. She must be given hope that if any government fails, the next one might treat her better, because she deserve it. Its a shame how old we are and how many times we have failed to produce that one person to lead Nigeria through that painstaking path to redemption. Some times I wonder to myself and I'll say "are there no true patriots in Nigeria? When you make reference to the republic of SouthAfrica, they had Nelson Mandela, God bless his soul. Refer to Ghana, they had Jerry rawlins. Lee kwan yew rescued Singapore. Who will rescue Nigeria? Let me wonder aloud for the first time, its been a long time coming and Nigeria has not seen that one true nationalist, that would ring that change of safety, that change of "by the book" mentality that has tortured her over the years. Where is that revolutionist, where is that redeemer? This is a marriage we don't want to let die. Don't tell her to stay with you if you can't guarantee safety, if you can't guarantee economic freedom, If you can't guarantee food security, if you can't guarantee security of lives and properties. Its a guarantee she'll surely die of the wounds this salient vices are threatening to inflict.

i cant stop laffing

when the one that is doing you is more than the one in the village

FATHER'S WORDS OF ADVICE FOR A SON IN RELATIONSHIP

* My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
 * My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family,please don’t let her go. * My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.
 * My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
 * My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.
 * My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
 * My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again. * My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely. * My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.
 * My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.
 * My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much. * My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
 * My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
 * My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
 * My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
 * My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
 * My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
 * My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
 * My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.
 * My son, your mother and I is not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.
 * My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
 * My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.
 * My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.
 * My son, if I had taken my time to tell you all these and your marriage did not last like that of your mother and I, then you are a bastard.

She might stop caring!

Like a zombie, she'll go where ever her heart leads. She's convinced her world belongs with you, no matter the danger posed by the hale-storm in your life, she'll be there to carry it on and on even when you are tired of pushing, She is your undeserved gift. I said you are undeserved of her because, an average man's nature is a love killer. They don't think twice to break hearts, the pulse that pushes a man into letting-up on the real thing and heading for the glittering shafts are the miseries only nature can solve. Women trusts with their whole hearts but don't let it waiver with your recklessness, don't let it waiver with your polygamous urges, don't let it waiver with your hunger game and adventures. She'll only shut it down on you not for what meets your eyes, she won't shut you down for not buying that Ferrari, Tom (her ex school mate) bought yesterday, she won't shot you down for failing the promise she thought would come to fruition through you, she won't shot you down for failing to meet up with the materials of life she deserves and she'll get if she looks away from. She is the reason you'll go out and you are focused enough to make gains on your struggles, pursuits and livelihoods. She is the steering wheel that guides your emotion towards accomplishments, and she is the last part that completes the puzzle of your life. When you look into her eyes, your derailing hopes are restored with the feeling that "somebody truly care" and also with a homely feeling of love that builds inspiration. Out of her tenderness, you'll find strength. Out of femininity, you are masculine. Out of her tears of joy, you'll find appreciation. Out of her wear and tear, you'll find that your continuity is guaranteed. She can give all these to you, but all she's asked is just a guarantee that; you'll be there, a guarantee that you'll protect her, give her shelter, keep her warm, guarantee her emotional security. relieve her of her feminine burdens and in times that her nature tend to torture her, you must be the shoulder she'll cry on. You must bring fort that much needed succour, when her fears render her restless. Your failure in doing this might be the deal breaker, it might shake her from root to roof, and in return, she'll be heart broken and stop caring.

5 Signs she's good in bed

You are with a girl on a date and of course, you are thinking of what it would be like when you finally get her into bed. Only one problem, you wonder if she would be as good as you can imagine. Well, while nothing is 100 percent certain, there are a few things you can look out for that points to a potentially great lay. 1. Willing To Experiment: Does she sound like she loves to experiment with something new when the chance presents itself? Does she seem eager to try something you are eating even though she tells you she has never had it before? A woman excited about new things is one that is willing to get out of her comfort zone in bed. It tells you that she is open-minded and might even have a few new tricks up her sleeves for you. 2. Good Dancer: If you would like to know how she moves, then give her an opportunity to bust some moves. Take her out to a club, party, or anywhere she would get the chance to show off her dance skills. The way she moves to the music will give you an idea how she would be in bed. Sultry and seductive dance moves are indicative of a woman who knows how to use her body in a sensual way. 3. Very Handy: A woman who is not shy to get her hands on you and physically connect with you is one that understand the importance of touch in bed. She does not have any problems being close to you and might be looking forward to getting even closer. 4. The Walk: You know when a gorgeous girl enters a room in a seductive walk that makes all the men instantly think about taking her to bed? Yeah, a woman who possesses that kind of walk surely knows what her body is capable of and how to use it. 5. Good Kisser: Studies have shown that if you feel an intense connection with someone when you kiss, it is highly likely that that chemistry will translate into the bedroom.

Why not tell him yes!

What do you know about surgeon in the parking lot? I'm not talking about struggling to start a car you parked two hours ago, and on getting back, it refuses to start. I'm talking about, running into this charming beauty that has rendered you completely breathless and all you're left to do is just walk up to her and say "hi" only to find out that she was also falling like you are doing too.
Do you know what that is called in my own personal dictionary? "Magnopulsy" which is simply derived from two words, magnet and pulse. Its not far from norm to have reciprocal instant attraction, most times, even when it occurs, the ladies wait for the men to make the pass first.
 Absurdity is when you let him do the whole talking, selfishness is when you play that regular everyday line "let me think about it" emotional blindfold is when you shot it out completely without considering what it was like at that first sight, Regret is when you later find out that he is truly a gentle man, but you might be a bit late because he is taken, oooh! What a loss!
We shunt out our emotions and our chance at love sometimes mainly for soul searching and also to create a bit of space for us to get focused on our living struggles and head-ways, some times we even shot it out because we thought we needed a breather to recover from the devastation of loosing a false love.
Giving love a chance should not be timed because you don't know the perfect time that true love would come calling, it may be the time you are focussed on your humanity, it might be the time you are recovering from an ailment on the hospital bed, while you where hitch hiking or better still, while you where recovering for a severe post bad-relationship trauma. Believe me, it can't be timed, it doesn't matter what your out fit is like at the time, it strikes like thunder bolts and if the cupid's arrow happens to lunch simultaneously into you both's love ember, you are hooked, and don't fight it, tell him yes and believe me, the risk would be worth taking.

Bae can't help but sleep after sex

He is so annoying, he is so boring, damn! He just wouldn't hold on, smh. The reasons why this happen after you couples are done with the rumps, pleasure, and the sweet passion and intimate indulgence of sex is still a misery to many of this ladies, first off, we must not forget that sex is a physical activity and its the men that are most times left to be in the thick of the physical pleasure making motion. Secondly, the psychological state that is perfect for a man to reach orgasm is at a relaxed one, so getting rid of anxiety and inviting serenity into the motion and system is bound to drive a man further into a psychologically relaxed mode, even after the process is done. The most complex of all is that of the physiological and scientific explanation of the factors. Research shows that during ejaculation, men release brain chemicals,which includes serotonin, norepinephrine, vasopressin, oxytocin, nitric oxide, it also includes the release of the hormone prolactin. The release of this hormone is related to the feeling of sexual accomplishments, and it is also in between the recovery time that the masculine pulse is aware that its time to wait, even if you'll give it another go. Studies have also shown that men deficient in prolactin have faster recovery times. Prolactin levels are naturally higher during sleep, and animals injected with the chemical becomes tired immediately. This suggests a strong link between prolactin and sleep, so it’s likely that the hormone’s release in the brain during orgasm causes men to feel sleepy. So now you can cut him some slack and just let him have his time with nature.